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Why Does He Do That?

Inside the Minds Of Angry and Controlling Men

"He doesn't mean to hurt me-he just loses control." "He can be sweet and gentle." "He's scared me a few times, but he never hurts the children — he's a great father." "He's had a really hard life..."

Women in abusive relationships tell themselves these things every day. Now they can see inside the minds of angry and controlling men-and change their own lives. In this groundbreaking book, a counselor shows how to improve, survive, or leave an abusive relationship, with:

• The early warning signs
• Nine abusive personality types
• How to tell if an abuser can change, is changing, or ever will
• The role of drugs and alcohol
• What can be fixed, and what can't
• How to leave a relationship safely

Includes bibliographical references (p. 391-400) and index.

ISBN13: 9780425191651 ISBN10: 0425191656 Order from Powell's (a union shop) TRADE PAPER, NEW Ships in 1 to 3 days $16.00 Order from Amazon

When Dad Hurts Mom:

Helping Your Children Heal the Wounds of Witnessing Abuse

Can my partner abuse me and still be a good parent? Should I stay with my partner for my children's sake? How should I talk to my children about the abuse and help them heal? Am I a bad mother?

Mothers in physically or emotionally abusive relationships ask themselves these questions every day. Here, a counselor reveals how abusers interact with and manipulate children-and how mothers can help their children recover from the trauma of witnessing abuse.

This book, the first ever of its kind, shows mothers how to:

• Protect children and help them heal emotionally
• Provide love, support, and positive role models, even in the midst of abuse
• Increase their chances of winning custody
• Help their kids feel good about themselves

ISBN13: 9780425200315 ISBN10: 0425200310 Order from Powell's (a union shop) TRADE PAPER, NEW Ships in 1 to 3 days $15.00

The Batterer as Parent:

Addressing the Impact of Domestic Violence on Family Dynamics (Sage Series on Violence Against Women)

The Batterer as Parent takes the reader inside of homes affected by domestic violence, imparting an understanding of the atmosphere that battering men create for the children who live with them. Bancroft and Silverman show how partner abuse affects each relationship in a family, and explain how emotional recovery is inextricably linked to the healing and empowerment of the mothers. The authors cover the important but often-overlooked area of the post-separation parenting behaviors of men who batter, including their use of custody litigation as a tool of abuse. Readers also are guided in evaluating change in the parenting of men who batter, assessing risk to children from unsupervised visitation, and supporting the emotional recovery of children. Although the book is written primarily for professionals, its accessible style makes it engaging and useful for abused mothers and anyone else wishing to assist children exposed to battering.

ISBN13: 9780761922773 ISBN10: 0761922776 Order from Powell's (a union shop) TRADE PAPER, NEW Ships in 1 to 3 days $47.25 Order from Amazon

Humanity Unbound:

A Dramatically New Approach to Healing from Trauma, Abuse and Loss

This guidebook teaches a uniquely effective approach to healing both old and recent emotional injuries and taking charge of our lives. Based in the Cooperative TherapySM system that Lundy has developed, Humanity Unbound takes the reader on a path that really works for recovering from the wounds we have suffered and learning to love life again.

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P.O. Box 253
Northampton MA 01061