A leading expert takes women inside the minds
of angry and controlling men to teach them how to change their
relationships and free themselves from the chains of abuse.
In
this groundbreaking book, domestic abuse expert Lundy Bancroft
uses his unique perspective as a therapist for angry and controlling
men to help women, their children, and other family members who
have been touched by abuse understand why abusers behave
the way they do and what can be done about it. Bancroft teaches
women how to survive and improve an abusive relationship; how
to determine how dangerous an abuser is and when it is impossible
to rectify a situation; and how to get out of a relationship safely.
Bancroft identifies nine types of abusive men, addressing
different styles from the physical batterer to the strictly verbal
abuser. He dispels the pervasive societal muths surrounding abuse,
exposing common exucses used by abusers such as having experienced
an abusive childhood or being addicted to alcohol or drugs. Bancroft
answers the twenty questions that women most commonly ask about
relationship partners who are controlling, including:
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How do I know when his bad temper or controlling personality
has crossed the line into abuse?
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How come arguments with him never seem to get anywhere?
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Does he have a problem with women?
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How can I get him to change, and how can I tell if his
changes are real?
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How is his behavior affecting our children?
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Why is he so nice to everyone except me?
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Is he going to do something dangerous?
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What are the warning signs of an abusive partner, so
I can avoid these problems in my next relationship?
Why Does
He Do That? gets
to the heart of abusive men’s thoughts and behaviors, making
it a vital resource for victims of domestic abuse, their families,
and professionals. This empowering book gives women the tools
they need to get back in control of their own lives.
LUNDY BANCROFT
has spent the last fifteen years of his career specializing in
domestic abuse and the behavior of angry and controlling men,
and is considered one of the world’s experts on the subject.
He is the author of The Batterer as Parent (with
Dr. Jay G. Silverman) and of several journal articles that have
appeared in such publications as the New England Journal of
Medicine, The Journal of Contemporary Psychology, and Domestic Violence Report.. The former codirector at Emerge, the nation’s
first program for abusive men, Bancroft now practices in Massachusetts
while training various state and judicial agencies across the
US in dealing with families affected by domestic abuse.
